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"When I was diagnosed with Fibromyalgia and Chronic Fatigue Syndrome several years ago, I found it difficult to find the support I needed at the time. I went from doctors to healers, diets to supplements and I spent a LOT of time online, browsing what the rest of the world was saying about this mysterious illness. I was desperate to be "cured". I am sure some of the pills I took did help, however, eventually I could see that this incessant searching outside for answers, led me to feel overwhelmed and this was not helping my healing journey. I decided on a new approach.

I started meditation and somatic yoga and I began connecting to two things my wiser inner voice (what I call my spiritual self) and the unspoken voice of my body. It was only when I went inside and spent time with my "suffering" that my illness really started to transform, the pain started to fade and I as a person started to grow. This is fundamental in how I work with my clients today, to truly and safely go within to explore and transform suffering into healing and growth. I do not believe there is a straight path to healing our suffering, everybody has a unique path. However, I think that working on our traumas/wounds, and connecting the mind, body and spirit are key pieces in the puzzle. This blog focusses on all the areas that I love to "geek out " on, neuroscience, trauma, consciousness, spirituality, quantum physics and anything else that feels like a fit.

Denise

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An exercise in learning to say NO!

by Denise Tibbey

Apr 30, 2017
1 min

An exercise in learning to say NO!

This is an exercise to help raise self-esteem by addressing the difficulty in saying NO to others. The aim of the exercise is to encourage you to stay faithful to yourself and to your needs and wishes. The exercise helps you to bring to your conscious mind the situations where you would like to say no, but often don´t and it asks you to look behind the reasons as to why you say no, so that you can work on turning things around. List the things you would like to say NO to: Ex

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The Gifts I Received From Living with Fibromyalgia and Chronic Fatigue. A Letter To The Newly Diagn

by Denise Tibbey

Apr 28, 2017
5 min

The Gifts I Received From Living with Fibromyalgia and Chronic Fatigue. A Letter To The Newly Diagn

Dear newly diagnosed Fibromyalgia and CFS companion, After what might have been a very long time you have finally been given a “diagnosis” for that elusive group of symptoms you have been experiencing. At last, you feel that you are not going mad and that it is “not all in your head” as some may have told you. You now belong to a “group” because actually there are so many others out there going through the same or similar experiences to you. This to some degree will give yo

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Is your self-doubt just a sign that you care?

Sep 11, 2016
3 min

Is your self-doubt just a sign that you care?

The theme of the day for me is “self-doubt”. Why? Because today I am doubting myself. What am I doubting? Well actually it has been about this, writing a blog. It is uncomfortable feeling self-doubt, for me it feels like butterflies in the stomach and a slight uncomfortable anxiety in the chest. Blogging is new to me and I am so keen to write a blog that comes from the heart as well as from my professional experience that it makes me nervous at times to write! So this ha

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Do you struggle to say NO? Here are a few tips on why we should set healthy boundaries and how.

Aug 19, 2016
2 min

Do you struggle to say NO? Here are a few tips on why we should set healthy boundaries and how.

I often come across in my practice; kind-hearted generous clients who struggle to create healthy boundaries with the people in their lives. They feel obliged to help and support others even to the point of taking over and completing things for them in order to make the other person feel better. However, I also find that this can create a lot of stress and feelings of burden for them. There is no doubt that it is a honourable and beautiful trait to be kind, generous and altr

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When setting our expectations too high leads to disappointment

Jun 23, 2016
3 min

When setting our expectations too high leads to disappointment

Many of us have grown up in an environment where we are expected to meet the expectations of others, it could be getting good grades at school, getting a good job, meeting the expectations of your boss, your parents, your partner and the list goes on…..We also develop our own set of expectations of both ourselves and of others. But sometimes we can set our expectations too high and the result can lead to pain and disappointment. Sometimes we expect too much perfection; we be

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Finding yourself, when you feel lost

Jun 5, 2016
4 min

Finding yourself, when you feel lost

Some of us may relate to a moment or even several in our lives when we feel completely lost. We are floating on a raft in the middle of the ocean with no wind in our sails and no island in sight. What am I doing with my life? Where do I want to be? What do I want to do? What is my purpose? All of these questions and more keep coming up, but yet there is no voice coming back with an answer. In the busy lives we lead there is often little time to really look and reflect wh

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Love yourself first

by Denise Tibbey

Mar 2, 2016
2 min

Love yourself first

In my last post I discussed how self-abandonment impacts yourself and your relationships. The antidote to self-abandonment is self-love, something that has become a hot topic amongst Psychologists and Wellbeing bloggers. I mentioned in my last post that Margaret Paul believed that the majority of failed relationships boiled down to one factor, self-abandonment. This she says comes from a lack of self-love. Self-abandonment happens when we do not respect or acknowledge our

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